MELODY
Melody Butiu is that type of actor that you see so many times that you stop and say, “I KNOW her! What did I see her in??? I swear, I know her!!!” In addition to playing many roles on television from court reporter to nanny to doctor to E.R. nurse; she is also a theatre actress who originated the role of Jennifer Marcus in the premiere of “The Intelligent Design of Jenny Chow“, played to standing ovations at San Diego Rep’s “Long Story Short”, and will be playing ‘Desiree’ in East West Player’s upcoming “A Little Night Music”. As a SAF, she shares a little about one of her old day jobs which deals with lovelorn people and her own search for love.
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”—Carl Jung
I work for a matchmaking company and I talk about love all the live-long day. It’s not as warm and fuzzy as you might expect, because in talking to people about love, we also talk about fears, failed relationships, regrets, resistance, and doubt. People believe that once they find that special someone, their life will be complete. They want to find that part of their life that’s missing.
I value quality relationships. I love my man with everything that I am. So I don’t begrudge others trying to find love, and I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with asking for help. I just encourage people to look within while they’re on this journey. If you have a string of horrible and failed relationships, you are the common denominator in those relationships, so what can you do to create change? If you only come across “losers,” people you wouldn’t give the time of day to, how do expect anyone else to give you their time and attention? Do you want to feel special and honored? How often do you make others feel special and honored, regardless of whether or not they are date-worthy? What you put out is what you get back, so what are you putting out there?
Who the heck wants to date a mean girl? Like, really.
