Around the Horn: Bucket List Edition

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Don’t want to bring things down too much, but death’s been on my mind recently–last week, we lost two people who were connected to YOMYOMF in their own ways. One of the workers in the real estate office next to our YOMYOMF office passed away of an unexpected heart attack as did Cira Felina Bolla (from cancer) who was the DP on my fellow Offender Alfredo’s YOMYOMF Network series REALITY REBOOT. I didn’t know either particularly well, but both were young and seemed to be full of life so it was shocking to hear about those losses.

Of course, we all have suffered similar losses and know all too well that death can come unexpectedly but things like this really remind you of that. It makes you aware of your own mortality and that of those around you and, at least for me, makes me think of all the things I’ve always wanted to do, but seem to never get around to i.e. the bucket list.

I don’t really have grand ambitions on my bucket list–i.e. things like climbing Mount Everest–for me, what I want is pretty simple: to be able to comfortably do what I love to do, be around good friends and family and to support them, etc… But the one thing I have always been saying I want to do is take my parents on regular vacations. We used to do family vacations all the time when I was growing up, but I have to say it’s been a long time since we’ve all been together that way. And as my parents are getting on in years, doesn’t make sense to keep putting it off so I think this summer, will make that happen. Perhaps we finally do that Alaskan cruise or the tour of Machu Picchu we’ve been talking about.

What about everyone else? What’s on your bucket list?

Love to my YOMYOMF Family

Paul Walker and his Fast and Furious family.

Paul Walker and his Fast and Furious family.


“Heaven must be full of angels. So many have departed this year.”

Someone wrote that on his Facebook wall about a month ago.

Death is a strange bedfellow, we americans are more insulated from it than say, an Afgan or a Chad or Niger citizen, but there the grim reaper sits… ready.

I didn’t know Paul Walker the actor myself, but a lot of the YOMYOMF crew did. They’ve either acted with him or have directed him or have had a late night dinner with him. And although Justin and I haven’t talked much in the last few years (he’s always off filming that Fast and Furious thing), I know his feelings run deep for those people in whom he places his trust.

Around the Horn: Family Intervention

Usually, I’m a person who would rather not meddle in other people’s affairs.  Even when it’s family, I may have opinions and disapprove of certain things, but I don’t want to get involved in debates about their personal affairs.  But sometimes, there comes a point when I feel there is a need to intervene, especially when it involves someone’s safety.  Alcoholism and drug addiction are examples that come to mind.

Sharing Porn with Your Friends & Family

When If you watch porn online, you’re likely to see something like this accompanying the videos:

You’ll notice there are buttons that allow you to share/like the video on facebook, twitter and other social media. Which leads to this question: who exactly shares porn via social media?

Who watches porn and thinks to themselves: “Gee, I bet my parents, co-workers and assorted friends would enjoy Asian Anal Nurses 8 as much as I do. I should post on facebook and tweet it out!”

SAF Seeking… The pain of Wedding Planning

Ooooh, this is going to get dicey.

“Eighty.” I say it quietly, hoping he doesn’t do the math.

“Eighty?!” His voice is raised and the pitch is a wee bit strained.

“Eighty,” I say lightly, “But that’s just the bare minimum!”

WEDDING. The word itself strikes anguish in us both.

My fiance’s list is very small. He immigrated to this country so it’s only his immediate family (and a brother and a sister flying in) and a handful of super close friends. I’m filipino, so anyone who changed my diapers is invited. That’s just the way it is.

The Short List: ODE TO A CHRISTMAS TREE

As part of our new YOMYOMF Network series, The Short List, where we present short films we love every Friday at Noon EST, we’ve reached out to the filmmakers with 5 Questions to see what’s up since the production of their short film. It’s a way for them to revisit their film and get an update on their next projects. You can view all The Short List films here.

 This week, we ask 5 questions to director Sarah Kim about her film, ODE TO A CHRISTMAS TREE.
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1. How did you come up with the concept for this short?

Around the Horn: Turkey Your Way

Thanksgiving is this coming Thursday, another year, another turkey, another tryptophan-induced food coma. Many of us will be back at the family home, watching football with relatives, playing hide and seek with little runt cousins, and speaking loudly into grandma’s ear. Although we spend Thanksgiving similarly, is there any unique thing that your family does for Thanksgiving that is different from the norm? An age-old family tradition that is tied into your ethnic heritage?For my family clan, we do Thanksgiving pretty traditionally. We have two turkeys, a ham, all the fixings including cranberry sauce, mashed potatoes, gravy, etc. But since we’re Vietnamese, my mom has started an interesting new tradition, especially when it comes to the leftovers. Coming from Hawaii, I wrote about the various Island-style ways of making leftovers. Anyway, our family makes Turkey Pho.
And damn straight, it’s friggin’ gooood. What do you do that is unique for Thanksgiving?

The YOMYOMF Network: Behind the Banana!

Seeing the promo is one thing.

Being on set for it was a whole different, insane beast altogether.

I’ve been a part of YOMYOMF since 2010 and even after two years with our – how do you say ‘crazy’ without saying ‘crazy’? Oh, right! – idiosyncratic crew, this was still the most loco thing I’d ever experienced with them.

I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I set foot in the studio that April morning. I came there prepared to be a production assistant; by the end of the shoot, I’d fought three dudes at the same time; gotten choked out by a professional wrestler; and played basketball!

Do you know how crazy that is? I don’t even know how to WATCH basketball!

Every shot I saw was a piece of a whole I couldn’t totally fathom yet – interesting and full of promise.

Make Your Parents Proud

EUGENE

Eugene Ahn really did go to law school, and quit his job as a practicing lawyer to become a rapper. He makes geeky hip hop under the alias Adam WarRock. No, it doesn’t suck.

 

“What do your parents think?!”

It’s been about two years since I quit my job as a lawyer to be an indie rapper, and I still get that question more than any other. To have that answer make sense, let me establish a few things about myself:

FLOUNDERING FILM FLUNKEE watches his family watch movies!

“Different strokes for different folks.”

You’ve probably read me use that phrase many a time – it’s one that I try to live by. Hokey as it sounds, it centers me, helps to remind me to respect the way other people might do things, even if it’s the polar opposite of what I’d do.

It’s a mantra, and it’s one I use every time I’m watching a movie with my folks, or my Filipino relatives in general.

A Funeral, a Baby and a Movie

This may sound like the most cliché holiday movie title but that was pretty much my year. My good friend J passed away the past April. It was really the first time that a good friend of my age died. Before J, the only person who was close to me passed away was my grandmother in 1993. Even to this day, which hasn’t been that long, I am still trying to make sense emotionally of the radical discontinuity of J’s death. The day before I spoke to him on the phone and the day after I could not talk to him forever.

On top of all that, the circumstances around his death were unusual. We kind of knew what happened but nothing was confirmed except to the police and his immediate family. A police investigation and arrests were also involved which further complicated the scenario.

DADDY FAN – Hollywood, family – Part 2

“You’re the girl in the relationship, Rog.”

What?  Did I hear that right?  Did a girl friend of mine just emasculate me with a quick flick of her tongue?

I just stood there for about 6 seconds, face frozen with a half-smile, trying to figure out if what she had just said was a kick in the balls or a verbal embrace of understanding.

some days, I look like this. just less Ryan Gosling-ish...

It was the later.  F-me, she was right.  I am the girl in the relationship.  Which means my Sexy-Korean-Wife-Lover-Mama is the man.  Me?  Girl.  Wife?  Man.  How the heck did I lose my manhood so unexpectedly?  It was like the tooth fairy visited me in my sleep, but instead of taking my tooth, she spirited away my penis.  And she didn’t even leave a nickle – just a hole in my spiritual crotch.  It sucks…yet I have nothing to suck.