I don’t speak Spanish.
Yes, I was one of those unfortunate people who took French in high school and continued with it in college. I tried in vain to take Spanish while taking French for a while, but trying to learn two languages that are similar and yet so different had me mixing my words and lowering my test scores so I stopped. Figure I’d read more Moliere anyway.
I was naive. I loved learning a new language and the cultural idioms that comes with it (“Mon oeil!”) but when you’re 14 and asked to choose between French and Spanish for your language requirement, I chose French because less people knew it and I could use it as a secret language on the bus between my friends and me. Besides, Spanish was so prevalent in California, I figured I’d pick up a class in it eventually or learn from watching my friends screaming back at their parents.
Well, 10 years later, I’m still pretty bad at Spanish. I know how to point to things and say the word for it (“basura“, “telefono”, “papel”) or say quick phrases (“go straight“, “Wait a minute”, “thank you” “please”) but that’s it.
However, I now see that my choice sucked.
You see, I was working an event in San Antonio, TX, which is an area where French would do very little good for me. However, I was setting up a new location for a school and had a chance to meet the parents of some of the students. As in some cases with English-as-a-second-language families, I ended up talking to the little child. The little child -who spoke English- would turn to her mother and dutifully translate as best as she could. I understand this isn’t an ideal situation -I’ve been that very same child growing up and writing the letters to Pacific Gas and Electric for my parents- but in case her mom wanted a Spanish speaker, I gave her a company card and explained that my two colleagues ‘Emilia’ and ‘Maria’ spoke Spanish and would be in the office between these hours and are great at answering any questions she might have.
But when she did call the office, it was to explode and yell at the office for not sending a Spanish-speaker. What an irresponsible company! I was apparently the worse person to send, despite the fact that the two people who could speak Spanish had different assignments that weekend and guess who is sent…. yup, that yucky non-Spanish speaker.
And in turn, for the first time, I was offended. I was offended because despite not being able to speak Spanish, did I not try to treat her with the same human respect I show for all my students’ parents? Did I not try to help her find someone who could help translate? Is my company at fault because their entire workforce isn’t bilingual?
I accept I am at fault for not learning Spanish -darn you naivety!- and learning Spanish has now jumped a few priorities up my to-do list (right above learning how to use PowerPoint and Twitter…I’m already seriously playing catch up). But why is she so angry? Why can’t I be angry that she didn’t meet me half way? I speak perfectly bad Spanglish! She probably speaks bad Spanglish too! We could drink a couple of margaritas using Cabo Wabo tequila and eat tacos with American grass-fed beef! We both could watch Adam Sandler’s Spanglish and both agree that Paz Vega does look like Penelope Cruz! Isn’t there a middle ground? It’s like watching The Artist, which of us has to change to make the world work for both of us?







Growing up, I don’t remember my Asian parents or the parents of any of my Asian friends being upset with external agents who didn’t speak Korean, Hindi, Mandarin, Burmese, or the like. They just made a bigger effort to pick up English. This involved watching Sesame Street and other PBS novelties with their children. Imagine my Surprise when my Caucasian and African American friends insisted that their parents watched children’s programming with them ‘to spend time with them’. Questions that arose were, “Why do they want to spend time with you? You live with them!” and “Are you CERTAIN it’s not because their grammar, too, could do with a bit of polishing?”. In the end, it didn’t matter, because when the Back-to-school-night came about, all our Asian parents just sat and ate all the hors d’oeuvre, while other parents took a pointed delight in embarrassing their kids by swapping stories with each other which were sure to compromise playground credibility.
Bev, do not worry at all. I do believe she overreacted. As a native Spanish I would like to apologize on her behalf, that is not helping to enhance the Spanish community. What it puzzles me is, do you really think that Paz Vega and Penélope Cruz are so alike? Do you also think that Spanish and Spaniards look the same? Sorry, this made me smile, as I can identify myself when I thought years ago that all Asian people looked the same, and mostly all were Chinese!!!! But, yeah, I would definitely have ended up having Margaritas and good laughs with you… Lot of love.
Why, as a Pinay, would you want to learn the imperialist rapist’s language? I mean SERIOUSLY…where the fuck was the outreach to the Pilipino community when our families came here? The really unfortunate thing about living in LA and having to find a job here is that EVERYWHERE requires you to be fluent in Spanish, even if the city is predominantly Asian! WTF?!?!
On a related note, I took up Japanese in high school because it was wayyy more interesting and challenging than Spanish. (I mean, you could use Rosetta Stone for a week and you’d be fluent…)
Bunni… You could say the same about English, though. And the people who are predominantly Spanish-speaking in LA are probably a lot closer to the colonized than the colonizers. That said, the woman totally overreacted.
Ike, in other countries you are required to learn the country’s language—like in the case of Sweden, you’re not even allowed to establish residency there if you refuse to take mandatory Swedish language and culture courses. Just saying.
I’m not saying you should forget your original language, but at least have some passable English (or whatever language you happen to be residing in.) -_-;
With that being said, that pendeja needs a good kick in the taint. I would’ve been a major bitch and just cut off her services. Absolutely unacceptable!
*country
‘Pendeja.’ I understand that.
Wow. Asians get bitched at, ridiculed, and in some cases, beaten for not speaking English. So what do asians do? They learn fucking english. They even learn english in countries that predominantly asian. What’s the first language taught in Singapore? English.
So, now that asians have played by the rules and gone through the trouble of learning the language of the country they LIVE in (America), asians get bitched at for not speaking Spanish. Wow. Something’s not right here.
I also think it’s b.s. that Spanish is a required language for many jobs here in California. Asians had to sacrifice their time, money, and energy to learn english. Why the hell are they being criticized?