Brace yourself. I have some terrible news. You may want to be seated, perhaps even sedated. Here it is. The headline from Saturday’s San Francisco Chronicle:
“Café asks customers to turn off laptops and start talking.”
WTF?!? The nanny state is going private? If I want to go to a café and sing Adam Lambert love songs, I will. If I want to put in some ear buds in and cut myself off from the rest of the world, I will. If I want to ask the stranger next to me where he got that handsome pocket square, I will. But I do not want to be told to do it!

Is it already not bad enough that we have to wear seatbelts, smoke twenty feet away from small children, and read how much sodium is in our Big Mac’s? My god, whatever happened to personal irresponsibility?
According to the article, the owner of a café in Oakland asks patrons who flip open their laptops to “unplug, sign off and log out. They’ll be encouraged to sit at communal tables and chat.”
Communal tables? What is this, Romania, 1973? Basically, I don’t like strangers. I don’t want to talk to them. In fact, in my coffee shop, I nurse grudges against people who I’ve never met for the pettiest of offenses. Every morning one older man brings in a plastic container filled with the most pungent guacamole you’ve ever smelled. He spoons it straight into his disgusting maw. At eight in the morning I don’t want to be assaulted by the odor of garlic and onions and avocado. But do I ask him not to eat it? No. I do the proper thing in a democracy: I hate him. Quietly. Unobtrustively. Without trampling on his right to annoy me.
Now here’s the part of the story that is perhaps the most horrifying:
“Customers, when pried away from their computer screens Friday afternoon, said they were thrilled at the idea. ‘When I get away from the computer, it’s a relief,’ said Genevieve Walker, a graphic designer who spends two or three hours in cafes tapping away on her laptop.”
Thrilled? Really? You have so little sense of yourself, of what you want, of who you are, that you need to be told to turn off your computer? Jesus, it’s like a two year old who needs to have a juice box pried from his sticky little fingers.
Want to encourage people to chat at your café? Do what mine does. Be passive-aggressive about. Don’t badger them. Don’t harass them. Just supply no outlets. Batteries can only last so long. After that, people can leave in a huff (as I do), or they can rub their bloodshot eyes, look around at their fellow earthlings, and chat all they want.
But I do not want to be tapped on the shoulder and told I should be chatting up a stranger rather than watching upskirt videos of professional ice skaters, dammitt! It’s not right, and it’s not American!






Yes, if only it could be Romania, 1973, I may have had the opportunity to sit across from Nadia Comaneci and shared an espresso and a few laughs.
i think the communal table is a great idea. for most people in the world, life is a lonely journey. to have simple and acceptable ways in which to meet perfect strangers in a safe and comforting environment would be an exceptional thing.
just as long as Jessica Alba or Megan Fox sit at my communal table i’ll be fine…
Is there a warning sign forbidding laptops??
I think it’s a nice idea and is probably well-intentioned, but a bit gestapo. I’m not “unfriendly/unsociable”, but I’m not akin to hanging out at coffee shops and chatting with random strangers, or even random “regulars”. I guess that didn’t help me get any dates when I was single either. Hmmmm……
Yeah, if I want to chat with random people I will. I just don’t want to be forced to do it. Sorta like how I always hated giving presentations/reports in school.
Alfredo- I second your desire for a monastic-state run coffeeshop where the cone of silence, a space to work free of the intrusion of strangers, and non disturbing odors from patrons should be the norm. I used to make the mistake of trying to work at a coffeeshop only to realize I was a sitting target for complete strangers who wanted to give me more scripts to read. Only in Los Angeles…
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