Usually if I get a phone call at 7 AM, it means something is amiss. No one who knows me would call me that early because they know I probably went to bed just a couple of hours earlier and will be getting up a couple of hours later and that’s my prime sleeping time. So I knew I couldn’t ignore this call.
“Are you awake?” my friend Irene asks in a frantic voice. Well, I guess I am now.
“You have to come over right away,” she continues without waiting for a response. “I think my grandmother called me last night.” That statement wouldn’t be strange except for one fact: Irene’s grandmother had passed away a week-and-a-half ago. “Actually meet me at Alcove for breakfast. I don’t feel comfortable being in my apartment right now.”
So I meet up with Irene and she tells me what happened over a breakfast burrito and coffee. She had gone to bed at midnight as she usually does. At some point in the night, her cell phone rang. She opened her eyes for a second, decided that she was too tired to answer and went back to sleep. When Irene woke up the next morning, she checked her cell and the late night caller hadn’t left a message, but…the call had originated from her deceased grandmother’s home phone.
“Her phone was disconnected a week ago,” she said. “This is freaking me out.”
I do my best to calm her down. It was probably some technical glitch on the phone company’s part, I tell her. It’s happened before.
“How do you explain this then?” She says, holding out her phone. “Look at the time of the call.” It reads 1:26 AM. “That was the time of my grandmother’s death.”
OK, I admit that’s strange. But not uncommon. Phone calls from the dead are a phenomenon that’s been recorded since the invention of the phone itself (telephone inventor Alexander Graham Bell himself reported such an incident) and it’s been a steady staple of fictional horror stories over the years (my favorite is the Twilight Zone episode where the boy gets calls from his dead grandmother who wants him to join her on the other side).
“I’m really scared,” Irene says. “I called you ‘cause you’re the only one I know who has some experience in this area.”
I don’t want to get into what she meant by that statement here mainly because it’ll take too much space to explain and it’s not that interesting, but one of my previous jobs involved working with “supernatural” subject matter. However, with that said, I’m certainly not psychic nor have I seen or experienced anything that proves to me definitively that things like ghosts exist. I’ve found there’s usually a logical explanation for any paranormal activity. Frankly, I’m skeptical of the whole subject and I tell her this.
“What about that one time in the motel?” Irene reminds me.
OK, I still stand by my skepticism, but occasionally I have dreams about things I’m consciously unaware of that…turn out to have some basis in reality. The motel was one of those times. Some years ago when Irene and I were dating, I had to fumigate my place for termites and decided to spend the night in a not-so-nice motel on Hollywood Blvd. Irene thought it’d be fun to join me and have what she called our mini “ghetto vacation.” I had trouble sleeping that night and dreamt that a little girl came into our room and sat at the foot of our bed. The girl was dressed in Hello Kitty pajamas and was soaking wet. I told Irene the dream the next morning and she casually mentioned it to the motel manager when we were checking out. The manager’s face went pale. He said the previous owner’s young daughter drowned in the pool. And she was wearing pajamas at the time she fell into the water.
I tell Irene that what I can do is accompany her to her grandmother’s house and check to make sure her phone has indeed been disconnected. She agrees to this plan.
When we get to the house, Irene suddenly refuses to come inside. “I don’t think I can, “ she says. “It just feels…wrong. What if she’s in there waiting for me or something.”
“OK, I’ll go in alone.”
I take the key and let myself in. The electricity has been turned off so even though it’s the middle of the day, it’s dark and musty inside. Everything has already been moved out, but the indentations where the larger furniture pieces were are still visible in the carpet.
I walk from room to room. I see the jacks but it’s clear all the phones have been removed with the rest of the stuff. The last room I enter is Irene’s grandmother’s bedroom. I can see where her bed was—the bed where she spent the last five years of her life; too weak to get up and her memory gone from advanced Alzheimer’s. Not an easy time for Irene and her family.
I return to the car and tell Irene that I didn’t see any phone inside. It seems highly unlikely someone called from a house with no phone or power or electricity in the dead of night.
“Can you stay with me tonight?” Irene asks me as I drop her off outside her office. “If there’s another call, I don’t know how…”
“Sure. I can spend the night.”
“But don’t think there’s going to be any funny business. I’m not one of your easy-to-manipulate 25-year-old models or flight attendants. If you try to touch me, I’ll rip your balls out! See you at 7 for dinner?”
“OK.” Hmm…I’m not sure why she’d be afraid of a ghost. If anything, it should be the other way around.
That night, I come over with sleeping bag and toothbrush in hand. We order pizza, watch Anderson Cooper and keep close tabs on the time—waiting for 1:26 to roll around.
“What do we do if she calls again?”
“Well…we answer.” By her reaction, I can see this idea doesn’t sit well with her. “Let’s say it is actually your grandmother calling. I can’t imagine there being any malicious intent from her end.”
“What if it’s a demon pretending to be my grandmother to fuck with me?” She says. “You’re the expert on demonology. You know stuff like that happens.”
“I think there’d be easier ways for a demon to fuck with you then to call from your grandma’s land line.”
As we continue to wait, the conversation turns to Irene’s feelings about her grandmother. Or rather her guilt. Irene admits that she never told her grandmother she loved her before the Alzheimer’s set in. At her funeral, she couldn’t even muster any tears.
“Everyone else in my family was crying except me,” she says. “I mean I was really sad and tried really hard to make the tears flow, but I couldn’t. Maybe that’s why my grandmother’s calling—to chide me for being such a bad, unloving granddaughter.”
“I hope the dead aren’t so petty. Besides, you know what you’re saying isn’t true.”
Eventually, 1:26 AM rolls around. Her phone is resting on the table in front of us. We sit. Wait. I’m sure it’s the longest minute of Irene’s life, but 1:27 AM comes around with no call. However, Irene doesn’t look relieved.
“I’m sure she’s just waiting for me to be all alone to call,” she says. “The moment you leave, it’ll be her.”
Then, an idea hits me. One so simple that I’m surprised I didn’t think of it before. “Why don’t we call her back?” I suggest.
“What?”
“Why don’t we call your grandmother’s number?”
“But what if…what if she answers?”
“Well…then just tell her how you feel. Tell her what you told me tonight.”
She thinks about it for a few seconds. “OK, but can you make the call for me?”
I put the phone on speaker and dial the number. The call goes through. We hear ringing. Then, someone picks up, followed by a noise and a voice that says:
“The number you have reached is disconnected or no longer in service. If you feel this is an error, please hang up and dial again.”
Irene and I look at each other. We smile. I’m about to end the call when she suddenly stops me.
“What’s wrong?” I ask.
“There’s something I should do.” Irene picks up the phone and puts it to her ear. She takes a deep breath and starts talking. “Grandma, if you can hear me, I just wanted to tell you…I love you. Maybe I never told you that before, but I meant it every day. I miss you. I miss you so much.”
Irene hangs up and puts the phone down. She looks at me without saying anything. But I can see the single tear trickling down her cheek. That’s followed by another tear. Then another. The tears that refused to appear at the funeral are here now.
Irene cries for a long time. I know she’s crying for her grandmother, but I also suspect she’s crying for herself; for finally allowing herself to say out loud the words she regretted never saying out loud before. There is relief mixed in with the sadness.
At some point, she falls asleep with her head on my shoulder and her face covered with salty dried streaks. I carry her to bed and tuck her in. For the first time today, I see a look of contentment on her face. If I didn’t know better, I’d think she was smiling. Hopefully the result of a pleasant dream.
In the morning, I will ask her if she needs me to stay with her tomorrow night. But I’m pretty sure the answer will be no. It’s just a feeling I have that things will be…fine. And I’m also sure the same look of peace I see on her sleeping face now will still be there once she’s wide awake.





My Dad passed in January, one day before what would have been his 72nd birthday. Since then, I swear he drops in to say “hi” to me via my iPhone and computer. He always used to say that I was always absorbed with both. So now my iPhone will unlock itself and dial my Dad’s former cell phone number, or the iPod function will start playing his favorite song. Just last week, I was at the Hollywood Bowl, and again my iPhone mysteriously unlocked itself and displayed a photo of my Dad and my nephews–a photo from Facebook that is not even in my photo album–it’s in my sister’s photo album! Perhaps the strangest “drop-in” from my Dad was when I went to shut off my home computer for the night, and when the screen came out of Sleep mode, the icon of the song “Honey” by Bobby Goldsboro from iTunes was plastered multiple times across the screen like a checkerboard. It’s never done anything like that before. These incidents used to freak me out, but now they’re actually quite comforting, as they happen at random moments and they feel like virtual hugs from my Dad. So, I hope your friend Irene finds peace with these mysterious calls from her grandma–it’s her grandma’s way of saying “hello, I love you.”
Sweet story, but I still wish I didn’t read this on my iPhone while laying in bed surrounded by the darkness of my room.
I was tremendously moved by this entry. Thank you for sharing such a powerful and beautiful moment. And this comment about VDV’s father sending him virtual hugs — really made me cry as did the end of this piece itself.
ps: although i admit it scared the bejeezuz out of me in the beginning especially reading it at 4am!!
i’m with lu & zohra damn! got scareder & scareder reading till the end
It is kinda freaky, but I’m sure the grandma didn’t mean anything “bad”.
One of my great-grandmas that I was fortunate to have grownup with (“4generations under 1 roof”) passed while I was away during college. I did not actually find out until the day after because it happened very late at night and my father did not feel the need to wake me with a phone call in a different time zone.
However, I had a dream the night it happened (before I heard the news). I rarely remember my dreams, but this one was quite vivid, albeit very short. In the dream, I was in bed sleeping and saw her standing in my dormroom doorway with the outer common area light on behind her so all I really saw was her silhouette. I felt a sense of peace and warmth. After hearing the news from my father the next day, I realized that greatgrandma had come to say “goodbye”.
A few years later, I went back “home” to visit my ailing grandfather whom I had not seen in many years. He was pretty much a vegetable and needed round-the-clock care….and had been the same way for about a decade. He was no longer communicative either, though family members would talk to him as much as possible. He passed away a few moments after my arrival. I was the oldest grandchild and always his “favorite”, and it seemed as if he had been waiting for me to return before he could move on to the next life….
Living in honolulu for most of my life you get to be familiar with ghosts & supernatural phenomena. Its a part of hawaii being very sacred & old. So this isn’t suprising & comforting that her grandma called her from beyond to say goodbye. Nothing scary about that. Nice story.
awwww this story is so sweet, yet terrifying in the beginning. (way to build up tension) =) you should definitely come up w/ a short film about this.
If you can agree that Soul does not die, then the idea that It lives on even after shedding Its body is not that hard to grasp. Many times, Souls who have departed a particular lifetime reach back to say final goodbyes to those who still need them, especially if they did not get a chance to do so before they left. There have been many stories where people felt something, or heard a voice at the time someone they loved was passion on. Many mothers feel it…
My advice for when next time someone makes an “Irene”-type call. Tell them to say out loud, “If you are of love and for me, then I want to see you. If you are not, get out.”
It is not that hard to spoof a caller ID.
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ditto Zohra
My dead sister keeps phoning me she only died this morning and she’s been phoning quite frequently it’s scary
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My dad passed away 2 months ago yesterday. Today whilst in the middle of a phonecall I hear a funny bellsound on my phone and my dad calling my name. I was busy saying goodbye to the other people and was so flabergasted that I only realised afterwards that’s my daddy calling me. I immediately said softly that I love him and prayed that he be in Gods protection in the hereafter.
I really enjoyed this how to. Something about ghost stories and how they bring folks together makes me sit upright and all attentive, and then there is the feeling that just getting to the story is scary cuz the family friendly ghosts know you Are listening – / plus the hairraising feeling, plus knowing how they’re similiar to my own paranormal experiences (real or not)
- it is all good. The idea that these are based on real events, ultimately draws me to them. It’s the campfire and the ghosts around.
Back in 1978, I remember answering the phone and an old lady with static in the background asking for my grandmother who passed away of cancer just the day before. The household was full of people and busy preparing for the funeral. I told the old woman to hang on a sec and I’ll let her talk to my mom. I called out for my mom and she took the call. When my mom said that grandma passed away, the static became really worse on the phone according to my mom. All I can hear was my mom saying, “Hello? Hello?”. I know my grandmother didn’t want to die. She was only in her 60′s. Guess she’s checking in to see if she was really dead.
Unfortunately, (or maybe fortunately?) I have never been sensitive to paranormal activity or to the existence of souls. As such, I am very skeptical of television shows like Ghost Hunters and the like. But hearing stories about friendly spirits of loved ones passed makes me want to believe that they are true. Besides, who says that all ghosts need to be malevolent souls? My belief that most humans are decent, good people causes me to think that, if ghosts do exists, most lingering spirits must just be sticking around to say their final goodbyes or watch after their loved ones.
Great story, very touching!