I realize I’ve been posting a lot of entries in my “How To Survive” series recently. I usually like to spread them out, but I guess it’s just been one of those weeks where these urgent issues seem to be confronting us constantly. If you’re Asian American and on Facebook, you may have noticed a link to this article being sent around in the past couple of days: Are Korean-American women narrow-minded and uncultured?
The piece was posted a few months ago by Ricky Kim, a Korean American man like myself, and takes Korean American women to task for being superficial, materialistic and self-absorbed. He admits that Korean women are the most beautiful women in the world, but concludes by writing: “Even though it’s against my mother’s wishes, I probably won’t marry a Korean-American woman. I need to be passionately attracted to my significant other, and for the most part attractive Korean-American women have unattractive personal values. They don’t care about the issues. They care about themselves. They call me negative but I feel the most positive thing you can do is have the courage to address the painful realities in order to build a brighter future for our children.”
If you look at the comments responding to Kim’s original post, you’ll see the strong outrage directed against him and his views. Now, I know that many of our readers have never dated a Korean American woman but want to because–and I totally agree with my boy Ricky here–they are the hottest women on earth. But your knowledge in this area is limited because the only Korean American women you know of are either cylons:
Deserted on a strange tropical island:
Or have a golf club permanently attached to their hands:
So, you may be thinking: Are Korean American women really as bad as this guy Ricky Kim says? The answer is yes and yes, please! Not only that, but they’re actually far worse—my boy Ricky has only touched the tip of the iceberg. In a poll that someone told me about seeing somewhere at some point in time, Korean American women were voted the most high-maintenance of all Asian American women and the least desirable as wife material because of this (Japanese American women were ranked most desirable as wife material because, well, they live to take care of their men). But as we established, KA women are super hot and you’re still going to ask them out, so the least I can do is try to help you navigate through a potentially dangerous situation. For those of you who are going to brave that date with a Korean American woman, I offer these survival tips.
First, let’s address the question of how materialistic KA women really are. As Kim observes in his article: “Just the other day at a bar, I overheard Korean women talking to each other, saying that they would not date men who drove less than BMW’s.”
If a KA woman has agreed to go out on a date with you, it means she thinks you have money. So, if you don’t drive a Benz or at least a Lexus, if you’re not going to show up at her door with a dozen roses in one hand and the latest Prada Louis Vuitton purse in the other as your way of saying hello, if you can’t get a table next to Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore at the hottest restaurant in WeHo—then, you might as well stay home with a jar of Vaseline, some tissue and the cell phone photos you secretly snapped of that hot Korean chick who lives in your apartment complex and likes to lay out by the pool in her skimpy two-piece bikini because you have a better chance of scoring with your iPhone than you do on your date.
If you’re already the CEO of some Fortune 500 company or your last name is Clooney and you own a villa on a beautiful Italian lake, you have nothing to worry about. Hell, you shouldn’t even be reading this, you should be out there right now bopping Miss Koreatown on your private jet! But I’m going to assume that you are a normal Joe, you don’t have that kind of money and there are days when your 15 year old Honda Civic won’t even run.
Well, all is not lost, my friend. We live in America! In America, all our dreams can come true! In America, the underdog (that’s you–in case you’re a little slow) can come out on top! How? Because we have access to that wonderful thing known as high-interest credit cards! Get one. Better yet–get two or three. Remember—you are dating a KA woman—the Mount Everest of women! It’s going to be painful and expensive to reach this summit, but if you make it to the top and you plant your flag on that snowy peak, the fact that you will be bankrupt and in life-long debt will be worth it.
Now you have to be careful about the actual date itself. After all, you’ll be skipping lunch for the next 12 months so you can lease that expensive car (make sure it’s black), purchase your finely tailored Italian suit and pay for the meal at the hottest restaurant so you want things to go smoothly. The main thing to remember is—never, under any circumstances, go within a half mile radius of any high-end shopping mall, Rodeo Drive, Brentwood—basically any place where she has the chance to say any variation of the following phrase: “Don’t you think that dress would look good on me?” If you let this happen, it is the beginning of the end, my friend. Not only will you be buying her that $5000 dress on your first date, there will be the matching earrings, the five pairs of shoes, the jacket, the purses—it’s like entering a black hole. You will get sucked in and there is no coming back.
OK, let’s say you’ve avoided that pitfall. You’re at the fancy restaurant—Ashton and Demi cuddling at the next table over–and the waiter comes by and asks if the two of you would like a drink. You should know that Koreans love to drink. I read a statistic just today that said that in Korea, over three million bottles of soju are consumed every year (this is just soju, doesn’t include other alcohol). That comes out to a whopping 90 bottles of soju each year for every Korean person over the age of 20. Jinro, the most popular brand of soju, is the best-selling liquor on the planet earth.
You may be thinking—this is great news. I’ll get her drunk, her inhibitions will drop and we’ll be ending the night playing hide the mu kimchi back at her place. Thank you, Mr. or Mrs. Jinro!
(mu kimchi)
Wrong! Game over, man! Do not pass Go! Do not collect $200! First of all, repeat after me—she is Korean. In order to get her drunk enough for her inhibitions to drop, you will be spending more on alcohol on one date then you do on your rent for one month. Here’s the other thing about KA women—there is a naturally-occurring, invisible chastity belt protecting her and the only way to get rid of the belt and get to her thing is to show her the bling! She is not going to put out just because she’s drunk. Who do you think she is—a blond Caucasian chick?! It’s not worth it.
Now, I find it odd that the most dangerous part of dating a KA woman is never, ever addressed. Maybe it’s some secret we Koreans are not suppose to divulge, but I’m going to do it anyway. If you are dating a hot KA chick, I guarantee she is going to have a jealous ex-boyfriend who is a Kkhangpae, a Korean gangster or wannabe gangster, stalking her. In other words, he will be tailing you two on your date. But he should be easy to spot. He’ll be the handsome Korean guy who looks like a cross between a runway model and a street thug dressed in black:
At some point, he will come up to you (probably drunk) and challenge you to a fight. Not to worry, Korean gangsters rarely carry guns. Their weapons of choice are usually knives, baseball bats, wooden boards and hammers. Still, they can be scary, but my advice to you is to do nothing. Do not engage him. Why? Because your date will take care of this problem.
Which brings us to the final thing you need to know about KA women—they are fucking crazy and ill tempered! She can handle her ex-gangster boyfriend stalker on her own without you coming to the rescue. This is how the exchange will probably go (the dialogue spoken in Konglish of course):
Your date: Oppa, I told you I don’t want to see you ever again!
Gangster boy: But I love you! I’m gonna win you back, Susan Helen Grace!
Your date: Oppa, leave me alone!!!!
Before gangster boy can say anything else, your date has picked up a bottle chair table and smashed it against gangster boy’s head—knocking him out cold.
End of threat.
Now, if you survive all this and you escort your date home, keep in mind that you will NOT get lucky on the first date so don’t even try. Until you’ve handed over an appropriate amount of bling over a set period of time to remove that invisible chastity belt (it can take weeks or years—be patient—remember, you’re climbing Mt. Everest), you will not get anything more than a peck on the cheek and a handshake. Hey, but it’s worth it, isn’t it? After all, you are dating one of the most beautiful women in the world. Good luck! And hope this advice helps. Hwighting!
Hahahahaha….that was hilarious!
Slightly generalized but extremely entertaining.
i wish i had read this article before venturing out into the jungle. my battered heart never another romance can it take…
It’s interesting that there appears to be only two socially acceptable ways for Korean women to be – hot, trophy chick or demure Church-goer. They are clearly a product of what’s selling in the market. So you men have to take some responsibility here. There can’t be supply without demand.
Excellent, entertaining post. It should be noted that the hot, materialistic trophy girl and devout Christian girl archetypes dominate the segment of KA women who are most likely to marry KA men, but the KA women who don’t fall into these stereotypes are the ones more likely to marry non-Koreans. So it’s really two separate markets.
Can’t generalize…Korean or not a Ho’s a Ho. They all have the same uniform.
all that was too much for me to read… I read a few paragraphs, but hey, the “AA” women would think I’m too dissolved in it if I were to make this a thesis.
I don’t give a rat’s ass either way, I love women period. And I think they love men period. Let’s just be a part of a society who does this the normal way. So…. girl who is Asian American and Woman who reads this comment… Peace and One Love.
dude. hilarious. and the absolute truth.
This article applies to all women, really. Why just restrict it to Koreans?
Yeah, here r some more generalities. One, K women are raised as princesses by their parents. Two, they actually believe they are princesses and expect to be treated like one. Three, a hot K women will only surround herself with less attractive friends b/c of the whole competition/psycho thing. Four, even if they are not super hot, they still act like they r hot b/c their parents raised them to actually believe they r a hot princess. Five, forget having any other friends who r girls – K women r jealous. On and on…
Elaine, you’re right that men have to take some responsibility here. I am planning a future blog on dating Korean American men so prehaps some of your questions will be addressed there.
To be fair, when there are cosmos to be sipped and shoes to be bought, who gives a shit about the Earth?
Here’s another tip. Even if you actually do own a Lexus, a beautiful, rare one that is only 1 of 120 made with a manual transmission that you searched ages for and flew cross country to buy and drive back home where you clay and wax it religiously, spend about $3000 and buy a used Honda Accord. Your new golddigger filter will be the best investment you’ve ever made.
As a Caucasian married to a Korean, I can relate! But it isn’t just Korean-American women…. this could apply to (just about) all Korean women, whether Korean American or just plain old Korean Korean!
How about the fact that a man never knows the real look of his KA gf until they get married and have kids?
Having been in the middle of my Asian (Japanese) and German family, I have come to the conclusion that God gave me a fighting chance by not possessing Korean heritage.
At the age of five and up, I had the fortune to be around and misfortune of constantly being half Korean.
As I started to mature into womanhood, I realized how cold and money driven Korean women are. Do they possess any sort of compassion for the men they marry and their offsprings.
The answer is a definite NO. KA’s are driven by one big factor and that is how big a man’s bank account and his net worth. You are thought of an outcast if heaven forbid are with a man because of love, and genuine affection for him.
That kind of man will not do; you have to find a good man and that is one who is loaded. KA women are the most money hungry class of women in the world.
They truly are. Marriage because of money when they can’t stand their spouses, children raised without love, affection or show of good positive enforcement nurtures the daughters to be like their mothers.
All their time is spent on the next “keeping up with the Kim’s” makes Dallas women on the prowl for Sugar Daddies seem liker amateur hour.
Don’t get me wrong, not all Korean women have that mentality. Only the uneducated, underprivileged ones who married GI’s seem to be more prone.
Very insightful comments and they seem to true from my experience and observations, sad to say.
What was not mentioned is the fact that a lot of Korean (and Asian) ladies are fixated on WHITE MEN. They throw themselves at them like they are the holy grail of men. I noticed this every time I would go out on the town with a good friend who was tall, blond and a lawyer, Korean or any Asian women would single him out and just get in his face. I asked why and he said that it was because 1) he was white and 2) once they found out he was a lawyers he was “in.” He really took advantage of this by sleeping with a lot of those ladies.
I also noticed that Koreans and Asian ladies seem to be very racist towards Blacks, even if they are of an educated middle or upper class. This shocked me. I never see Koreans or most Asian for that fact with black men (not ghetto types) think Cosby/Tiger Woods/Obama types. My friend say he had asked the girls he “dated” and if they dated any black men, they all said the same thing that they are raised that blacks in general are inferior and have no money.
I find this to be very disturbing in the 21st century. What type of horrible values are these? What happen to a person being judged on their character and not their skin or bank account.
I feel sorry for Korean or any Asian women who has these values.
Can’t we all get along?
All I have to say is wow…. And, agree with poster that says a ho is a ho….. I find it classless and pathetic for a woman who can go out and make it on her own — to look to a man for what he has, and not who he is. If money and a car is what impresses her, then her SIMPLE ASS should be able to buy her own. The females I “associate” with find me to be a strange female because I don’t like shopping. I get what I need, and I have long term goals and Prada (and the rest of them) haven’t ever done S**T for me. Anyway, That’s my take on that.
To Curious Guy:
The answer to us getting along…. Is, NO… Not because we can’t, but because neither side is truly willing to drop the past animosities we share with one another, and learn from and about each other.
Not to mention, dark skin in Korean Culture (Asian Culture in general) is seen in a negative and inferior respect. It’s something that is taught, still. It’s us who keeps us separate. If you want to see change take the initiative. It’s what I do. I have decided to start learning Korean and Chinese. I go to events (such as Kollaboration) to be supportive. You don’t have to be a particular race or ethnicity to show support and give respect. You just have to want to be there, be a positive presents, and show your goodness. Let the cards fall were they may, because at the end of the day we are all human and the response will either be positive or negative, but as the saying goes you catch more flies with honey, and Korean women with money (J/K)
Lol, it’s true. I don’t necessarily relate to most Korean Americans and don’t consider myself typical, but I can see these qualities in almost anybody. Hoes are hoes and dicks are dicks.
Great comment! I’m planning to publish a book by the end of this year. Here’s a brief outline of each chapter..
Korean Women – The Ultimate Revelation
by *****
Introduction – Korean Women
Chapter 1 – Ms. Ironing Board: Front and Back. “Eh…What’s The Difference?”
Chapter 2 – Prisses the First: Waiting for You.. Wussies in Shining Armor
Chapter 3 – Let’s Dig Gold…and Bury Men
Chapter 4 – Drama Queens and the Servants
Chapter 5 – Naive the Asian: “Super Bowl…Is that a name of a big cereal?”
Chapter 6 – Actresses: A Final Step to Steal Losers’ Hearts
Chapter 7 – Religious Preachers: Thou Shalt Not Kiss Before Marriage
Chapter 8 – Proud to be Prude: Thou Shall Not Even Hold Hands Before Marriage
Chapter 9 – Hermits R Us
Chapter 10 – Prisses the Second: Huh?? What’s a Gym??
Bonus Chapter: Ms. Invisible – I Can’t See Her Sideview!
First of all, my boyfriend picked me up on our first date with his 99 Ford Escort…nowhere near a BMW but after two and a half years were are still happily together! His name is even Joe (ironic right? Normal Joe). On our first date we split a plate at Yard House sitting at the bar and just chatted over drinks (not Grey Goose or Belvedere either). Also, when I go out I usually have ONE drink and nurse that one drink all night long whether I’m driving or not. What was written in this article sounds like some stupid Korean Drama series…maybe you watch too many of them? I am not a demure church goer either! Not materialistic..actually I’m quite fragile with my finances. I shop at Ross and Marshalls and buy shoes at Payless. Don’t stereotype us all as materialistic bitches. I can say a lot of shitty things about Korean men too but I know that stereotyping all men into one category would be highly incorrect! Growing up my mom was a waitress working her ass off so I can go to school and my dad passed when I was 5 so I’m NO princess. I am no jealous bitch either, I encourage my man to have guys nights out because I feel secure that at the end of the night he will come home to me and I get to be the lucky girl that scores the hot guy. TJ- how would your wife feel about your stupid comment?
This was a retarded post. Thanks for being one of those guys that give girls like me a horrible reputation. If I didn’t have a boyfriend, I’m sure I’d have a horrible time getting one because I’m Korean. Thanks a lot on behalf of all the humble, intelligent, sweet, and HOT Korean girls out there.
man this blog is f@#$%^& bullshit
im korean but i was born in sydney australia
i dont go for guys who have lots of money
i couldnt care less and money isnt everything
it only goes for people who are into all that superficial stuff – im not artificial and most of the guys ive dated werent rich at all and everytime – i usually paid half for everything – this blog is just stupidity NOT ALL KOREANS ARE LIKE THAT GET IT STRAIGHT ur making ME look bad
I’ve dated two Korean women in my life (one right now). They are very beautiful women indeed. Even though one is a shy church-goer and the other is materialistic, I think it’s just who they are individually. They do not represent the whole of KA women.
great work Phil!! a lot of different opinions. but the fact that this topic causes so much reaction, must prove something?? haha..
hmmm…
let’s not even get started on korean guys. but oh no, it wouldnt be nice to stereotype people, right?
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clearly, you are talking about LA koreans. we east coasters are a different breed.
and let’s be honest, KA men are the biggest whiniest group of mama’s boys I’ve ever seen, evidenced by this article.
haha.. bit of generalization and stereotyping. but overall, has a lot of truth behind it. I am KA female and has no KA female friends. and couldn’t stand most of the Korean girls I met while living in Korea..
oh, but korean girls were so amusing as ever..princesses trying to hike a mountain or walking on the beach with their highheels was nether the less too entertaining. haha
for all you girls that are heated, relax.. can’t you see he exaggerated a bit to prove a point lol.. good stuff.. Now! a tip for you poor bastards like me.. all you have to do is tell really funny jokes and make them laugh off there chasitity belt. true story!
Mathematics 101: Run that soju statistic past me again. Are there really only approximately 33,000 Koreans over the age of 20??
Amusing article, not true in my experience, although I am sure that KA of that type do exist, as they do in limited numbers from any background/culture.
Now see…I’m a Korean American woman, and I think it’s just as ridiculous for all Korean American women to be lumped into one pretentious category when you can pick a major stereotype from any race and blow it up. I’m a Korean American woman, yes…but, I’m also a military brat that has been working since I was 14..anything I wanted I had to buy. My parents provided for me, but they also instilled the importance of a good work ethic and the weight of earning that has put me ahead of my peers today. I am far from a princess, I worked my way through college, and though my family is middle class and lives comfortably, everything I have I’ve earned.
I’ve never been into name brands, I like watching football and drinking beers, Jim beam is my man, and the most important quality I look for in a man is if he can hold a conversation with me..whether it be about something serious or just goofing around…I can provide for myself thank you very much, so you can go ahead and put that wallet away.
Maybe what should be looked at here is the type of Korean American girls guys are going for…if the pretentious, high maintenance, prissy, lieing ho’s are the ones that made the topic of this article because there’s “so many of them”, maybe these guys should examine their own desires when pursuing these women. You have no idea how many times i’ve been approached with this line, “i’ve never been with an asian woman”. It’s just as bad that they’re going after Korean American women because of what they physically have to offer…as it is for Korean American women to go after men for what they have to offer.
Very entertaining read, but I can’t believe you left out such a massive issue: church! This is the other cause of so many problems, and even if she hates church, she has an aunty or best friend who’s totally messed up in it. And Korean Christians are not like other Christians – think Jehovah’s Witnesses who happen to believe in the Trinity.
Then there’s the other huge issue: Omah. Curfews, calls to check up on her all the time, snooping, getting dragged to church events – who wants to date a 24-year-old whose mother thinks she’s still 14 and treats her as such, while she puts up with it?
yea, this write up is pretty farkin lousy. get out of your LA or new york KA teenage drama. cuz those are really the only places where these lame, but sometimes true stereotypes originate.
thank you korean american woman for slapping some reality and sanity into this post. i’m also married to an awesome KA wife who doesn’t fit this stereotype.
a good advice would be to get the fark out of your KA clique and into the real world
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Toooo funny.
Of course, I have seen the stereotypes in other Asian ethnic types…..as well as non-Asians.
My KA gf fits none of these stereotypes except being the apotheosis of hotness but… it pretty much describes her mom/sis.
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This article is great, and I agree with EVERY SINGLE WORD OF IT because I am that top 1% upper tail of your KA distribution bitches. Ricky Kim, we should really meet up. I think you’re going to LOVE me.
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who’s the girl on the right in the title page!? GERDHENG!!!!
1. sorry that you got burned by a few korean ladies where you feel the need to write this lame ass blog.
2. sorry that you’re such a small minded person that has the audacity to clump korean women with a few bad experiences. (along with a few men that responded)
Sure, some women (NOT JUST KOREANS) like men with money – it means that they don’t have to worry about finance. They look at money more than looks. Some MEN, on the other hand, like “hot” women with curves or what not. Women can’t be fat or ugly or not put together. BOTH sides can be superficial.
You prob. just wrote this post because you realize that the “hottest” women just are not attracted to you and you got burned.
It’s a sarcastic “joke” entry but for some of those people who’ve never dealt with korean americans, you just pushed your pathetic stereotype onto these guys…
men – there ARE a large amount of KOREAN women who are great people, who do not fit this author’s idea of a korean woman, so give them a chance before blowing them off because you assume that all korean women are described as above.
Last but not least, dear author…May you never ever meet a good korean woman
First off, thank you for your thoughts, both the author and commentaries. Let me set the stage… as someone who’s covered the gamut in terms of culture and age, who has not been severely burned by any gf’s (thank God; although they’ve tried), and lastly as someone who has been married to a KA for 9 1/2 yrs…
#1 Excellent courage on your part to disclose as much as you did and risk your life as you have. As well, you’re generosity and thoroughness.
#2 I can say that while announcing/publishing stereotypes to the masses brings out the obama in me, it would be naive to not acknowledge some of the …blaring characteristic… you mention. That being said, I think Korean American women, and similarly inclined nationalities, are kinda like blow torches (pause). They are hard core and indispensable for performing certain tasks, they’re purposefully designed yet very versatile, and effective for both the arts and industrial purposes. They even glow and look hard core when turned off. Sometimes, while they “appear” to be cool and approachable, they’re still extremely hot and you’ll burn your daymn hand off if you grab them.
#3 Given the torch/flame/nuclear reactor likeness …they require a lot of maturity, craftsmanship, repetitive practice, cardio, and handling of utmost care. Nay, a type of handling akin to a blind folded surgeon trying to beat a shot clock. Alas, it is possible to handle them with care, and when done so successfully …you can weld steel, warm your home, even power a city – and God willing replace LADWP.
That being said, my advice is: you (male or female) should venture fearlessly, but respect the path you chose. My experience has been an excellent one, albeit at times it felt like riding on the back of a pitbull with turrets syndrome – it’s still a fun ride.
Also, it helps if you look like a japanese anime character, one of the super hero types. Like me. 8^)
As a KA myself, I cannot help to think that people will think that this is the absolute truth – it’s not! Yes, there are gold diggers, but doesn’t it exist everywhere? Yes high maintenance (somewhat) but not everyone’s like that… ganster boyfriend… uh… what? Gosh I mean I like money, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t just go around looking for a guy with a Ferrari and a house with a private lake. But I’ll give credit to this article for being hilarious.
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I might have to disagree about generalizing Asian women as I am a Filipino. I am educated enough to hold a 4 year nursing degree and another post graduate degree. I continue to live in an apartment and have chosen to do so in order to live close to the school district and raise my children single handedly.
My fiancee has an ex wife who is American Korean and she has absolutely everything of the characteristics described in this website.
I have no intentions of judging her yet have an absolute feeling of disgust of the way she seemingly displays her jealousy towards me when she committed infidelity and eventually filed for divorce.
She takes pride on her class but when stripped of make up and alimony, I just do not know where she would really belong to.
Thank you for this website that has really enlightened me on where her behavior is really coming from. It stinks I tell you!
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I think 50 percent of KA or KK women may be like as described, materialistic and so on. The other half may not be.
dude, i never dated a korean chick like that in my entire life. And most of them were smoking hot.
I am strongly attracted to Korean women. Those I have met are usually taller than other Asians, and they appear to hold their age well. I am a 50 year old Native American man and I love their color of hair and skin. (same as mine)
I live in the State of Montana and their aren`t that many Korean females living in this state. I am however also attracted to Caucasion and Latino women. I have problems dating or going with Native women because, as a tribal member, the women wont date or have a relationship with me because we are all mostly related to each other. Also I am turned off by the Native tradition of having a houseful of people at all times, and the well known social problems so common to Native Americans. I feel that dating outside my own race is most rewarding.
Its a weird situation…but I live part-time with my boyfriend who in turn lives with his brother. By this I mean that I have my own home, but I spend my time at his. Two years ago, his brother’s Korean-American girlfriend moved from LA to Chicago (despite his infidelity) and the world has stopped turning. Ms. Kim is the purest form of evil. She is the quintessential KA woman from this article (minus the gangster bf). She lives here for free but acts like its hers – even though I have seniority. Given that she is 5 years older than me, she thinks her shit dont stink. I’ve never met someone so stuck in high school. When she is drunk she is violent and psychotic. This house has become a mine-field, because she doesn’t like me.
I came upon this blog because I’m in need of a support group for what she has done to my boyfriend’s family. We have mutual friends and they have said that they have stopped inviting her to things and hanging around because she cant seem to get along with others. If someone isnt from California or if it seems that they arent wealthy or successful, she will give them dirty looks and get hostile.
PS. is it typical of Korean women to not be good a cleaning? She is kind of dirty and never does dishes. She gets sassy if I leave a dish, but she likes to leave moldy watermelon and dirty pans with chicken tempura still on it for like 5 days at a time!
Oh dear Lon, that ms. Kim is just a rotten apple outta the lot. The article is full of crap. Don’t believe it. At least not verbatim. PLUS I think it’s more about Korean koreans than KA women. There are plenty of nice and normal KA women out there. Hope this helps
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You hit the target right on the bullseye! KA or just plain K women disgrace the entire global female population-superficial and spoiled! The ones who do land a great man who adores them AND takes care of ALL the needs of the children, walk all over their spouses w/ those overpriced prada heals! And KA ladies should know, the modest, respectful non-K women your men work with are flirting right back w/ us!
…and for the 1% of awesomeness KA women out there (and there are a few) no offense is meant toward you-we heart you gals!
I was googling support group for Korean American women and stumbled onto this toxic article. As a nonmaterialistic and definitely nonreligious KA woman living in southern California, I find it deeply disturbing that this sort of bullshit is floating around. No wonder I can’t get a decent date!! I give up. I’m moving to Bhutan if they’ll have me.
I mirror MDninja’s query: who is the korean female on the right?
The melodramatic bullshit that Korean American females bring is insane.
I didn’t know Korean Women were like that. Most that I have seen are very pretty. I can also see that the Asian and Latin relationships is so rare. I can see that this post exaggerates a bit but how close is the reality?
[...] nothing on me. I mean I’ve written about everything from hanging out with Japanese porn stars to the dangers of dating Korean American women to what you need to do to make it with a white chick to wanting to fuck everyone from right wing [...]
Pretty funny stuff. I really don’t get it , very superficial and truthfully they are hot because they spend tons of money on products and surgery. Why do guys want hot girls and also expect her to be socially conscious. You can’t have it both ways, go for the middle path.
well well well. Looks like you really did offend people this time. Good job Phil. I’m a KA gril, but I don’t fall into the two categories people describe above. (Many people consider me eccentric and maybe that’s why?..) Also, from my personal experience, none of the KA girls I know are materialistic. Sure, they love to buy the expensive stuff, but certainly they are not the gold-diggers. Although a lot of them are the devoted church-goers. I don’t know. I’m just a college girl, and so are other KA girls I know, and maybe we just haven’t entered that game yet. Dear Phil ahjussi, don’t worry though. if we do turn out as you said, you will be the first one to know.
I myself a black american from H Town i truly love korean women due to my career i work all over south east asia,korea,china
in korea i didnt see these issues maybe i am lucky, yes i am also looking for a sperited KA Woman this is my choice. wish me luck.
traveling man
As a Korean girl (not Korean-American). just a Korean who’s in the States for a short period of time, I have to say, this is simply rubbish. You’re talking as if you know everything about KA women(or just simply Koreans) and this is so not true. Maybe you met some stuck up materialistic girls like you mentioned in the past, but those are just “some” girls you are not likely to meet everyday. Everybody is different, and this goes for other people too. Just because “some of them” are like that, that doesn’t necessarily mean every Koreans are like that.
I’m not superficial, I don’t care about if the guy i’m dating is rich or not and I definitely wasn’t raised as a princess. My parents raised me up to be independent and caring for others and these kinds of stereotypes are just nonsense. REALLY.
This posting is really offensive and I hope not a lot of people who are reading this believe EVERYTHING you say.
Korean women are the best! Sure, there are some bad apples…but most are simply divine. I am happily married to one and can’t see myself with anyone else.
I am white.
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This is absolutely hilarious and very entertaining. While it is a generalization of KA, I have known several and they all fit this sterotype. I am seperated with a Korean born woman, but she has a large family of KA cousins in the States. Despite this, she values expensive handbags, European cars, is jealous of her very rich KA cousin, wants to buy a big house we could afford but don’t need, etc. I will say she is very hard working and frankly doesn’t spend a lot of money on herself, yet she’ll go out to the mall with a $2K LV handbag while wearing sweatpants. Most women do this, but I find it hilarious nonetheless. BTW, she recently left me after 3 years of marriage. She asked me to marry her, which I was planning to anyway. I financially supported this deadbeat through school and everything else. Once she started making money on her own, which I asked her to save for our future, she left me. What a piece of s**t. To top it off, she won’t even talk to her family in the States after the seperation (I maintain a good relationship still with them). Just goes to show how selfish people can be.
I do accept as true with all the concepts you have introduced in your post. They’re really convincing and can definitely work. Still, the posts are too quick for novices. Could you please extend them a little from subsequent time? Thank you for the post.
The Koreans make the best whores because it is about the money these girls are straight from Korea . I use to go to the Korean massage paroles in ct most of those girls were acadating, went to the Japanese massage parlor and they were the worst the Korean whores are the best Asian pried bar non , hands down!
The Philspine woman are the most insecure and unstable woman I have ever encountered nuttier than a fruit cake money grubbers selfish rotten to the corp woman I have ever encountered i
Should know I married one
Japanese woman are by far the best male oriented woman in existence , they also suck the best dick bar non aim to please big time and all these woman I talk about actually come from the countries I tall about Koreans from Korea the pholapines fr the pholapines and the Japanese from Japan !!!!
Ok so I started dating a Korean American girl recently. IDK but maybe Im lucky? Im 36 and average, she is 25 and super beautiful. Yes she has nice things, but she works for her money and goes to school full time. Im a blue collar (L.E.) type so Im not rich. She is the one spoiling me! I have a 12 year old daughter that this girls spoils to death. She seems genuine and I havent had any of the issues from the article. She likes hanging out and doing stuff for me. She wants sex from me 24/7 and it doesnt cost me a dime. So maybe instead of generalizing people try meeting one and find out for yourself. So far things are great. Anyone else with the same experience as mine? Would like to hear about it. I havent met her mom yet who is Korean. Her dad is American and retired Army. Ive been in 17 years so I got that going for me on his side anyways. I’ll keep you posted!
Amusing, and clearly written by a bitter Korean American dude. Maybe if you are only packing the Korean dude average (3″ – look it up) you need a BMW, but for a non-Asian dude, hot Korean chicks happily put out on the first date. Uh, that’s assuming you consider a stall in the bathroom or your car in the lot where they work a “date” LOL!
I’ve been happily dating a Korean born girl for over 18 months now (she moved to LA – KTown – when she was 6) and while there is an amusing kernel of truth in what is written here (she LOVES her BVGARI purse I bought her), she is a fun, funny, bright, devoted and loving woman who I am happy and honored to have in my life.
Man I’m dating a Korean right now. She’s pretty, but I think you’ve over-glamorized them. I’ve been to Korea several times and not all the girls are great, in fact the opposite. Once you get over the “exotic asian” idea you start to see just like everyone else, and they’re not expecially pretty really. They have nice legs and no chests, and dress accordingly. They whine a lot, and I mean a lot!!! They are OBSESSED with their appearance and have MAJOR self confidence issues, which leads to insecure and psychotic behavior. They put all their value in how they look – basically they are expected to look like perpetual teenagers – it’s weird, like the men are attracted to little girls. The girls not only try to look 12 years old, but they ACT that way too – because it’s apparently considered “cute” with these insecure Asian men. So the women are expected to be 18 (at a stretch) and pretty and skinny all their lives, and the requirement on men is just to be rich. Hence, the girls end up as crazy gold diggers looking for the best BRAND (very important) of everything and the men just go looking for the youngest looking girls they can ?*$%. Also, since they inevitably have to get older, their marriages don’t last as she looses that kiddie look, the marriage is based on nothing else for the guy, and there is a fresh supply of younger gold diggers. So divorce is rampant. Result – all the women develop complexes about aging and go surgery mad trying to stop the inevitable … not to mention that they notice and comment EVERY little imperfection about each other and give each other massive complexes. Some of them are just weird – eg “Your face is too big”, or “Your forehead is flat”. Wtf?!!
I’ve pointed the bad of course – they have many wonderful qualities too, and can be great partners, BUT honestly I’ve learned something – you are better to stick with your own kind, and if you have a culture, stick to that. It’s not supposed to be a racist comment. I’ve had a few inter-racial relationships and while they’re manageable you just invite a boat load of problems to deal with. Any relationship can be stressful and will have problems. If you go international – expect all those problems PLUS all the inter-cultural/racial problems on top of them.
I know I’ve offended lots of people here but hopefully I saved more than I hurt. As for them not putting out on the first date, that’s a too general many of them do absolutely. If you saw the meaning of a night club there, or the purpose of the cheap hostels all over the place, you’d understand that actually putting out is not always the holy grail for them. That’s not to say the more conservative, traditional one’s won’t.
The story and the comments are cracking me up! I’m laughing so hard I have tears. I’m sorry for you guys. I date a Chinese American guy who is: super laid back, just sold his Lotus because…eh, we don’t drive it enough (has beater Miata), wears VFFs and the same Tad Gear hoodie daily, eats whatever I make with no complaints, cuts costs ALWAYS, addicted to Jeopardy and CARS. Love his laid back nature and I can deal with the constant car talk. Word to the wise…date an older woman who has made her own money and is not so materialistic and self-absorbed. Her view of the world is completely different from a 20-something and she tends to deal with issues with an easy going attitude.
Funny and generalizing, but overall true of KA.
But we love them anyways, do we not? One thing great about KA in general is that they don’t do anything half ass. If they are a gold-digger, they go all out. If they are religious, they are a super Jesus-freak. Just watch out for the ones that teeter-totter between party girl and Christian. I can’t tell you how many times I met a KA at a club and we hit it off amazingly. Next day, she goes to church and text reply me that she forgot what she did last night. My reply, “Baby, you were making out with me all night and was on me like bees to honey.” =)