SAF seeking… Clarity

guest_offendersANNIKA

Annika is a 20-something year old newly single divorcee who recently returned to school to complete a bachelor’s degree in computational linguistics. She spends her time baking, cooking, swimming, hanging at pubs, trying different foods and restaurants, and inappropriately staring at the asses of unassuming men. She currently lives in Los Angeles.

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Feel that? Brrr.

“I know this is a bad time to say this given your current condition [with food poisoning], but I think I’m going to cool my heels here. I do wish you the best and I hope you feel better!”

Ahhh, and our newborn dalliance comes to an end. It was the third time he had cancelled with such little notice and my vagina couldn’t take it anymore.

Too bad. I liked Ari otherwise – we got on pretty well. I always think back to the conversation we had about this song called “Bring on the Dancing Horses” by Echo and the Bunnymen that was on my profile and how much we both loved that song and how, in unison, we said, “It was written specifically for ‘Pretty in Pink’!” and I smiled because I hadn’t met anyone else who knew that little fact.

SAF Seeking . . . A New F Buddy, pt. 3: Who has Time for This Shit?

guest_offendersANNIKA

Annika is a 20-something year old newly single divorcee who recently returned to school to complete a bachelor’s degree in computational linguistics. She spends her time baking, cooking, swimming, hanging at pubs, trying different foods and restaurants, and inappropriately staring at the asses of unassuming men. She currently lives in Los Angeles.

(Read Part 1 here and Part 2 here)

So when ARE you free?

So when ARE you free?

Ari: What’s your week looking like?
Me: Uhhh, I’ve got an open slot for Thursday night and Sunday night. Nothing else though.
Ari: Crap, I can’t do either.
Me: There’s a possibility for Tuesday night, but not guaranteed.
Ari: I have client drinks which I can’t reschedule, but I know they’re early. I’ll text you that day.

SAF Seeking … New F Buddy, pt. 2: Fuck Buddies Don’t Do That, Right?

guest_offendersANNIKA

Annika is a 20-something year old newly single divorcee who recently returned to school to complete a bachelor’s degree in computational linguistics. She spends her time baking, cooking, swimming, hanging at pubs, trying different foods and restaurants, and inappropriately staring at the asses of unassuming men. She currently lives in Los Angeles.

What does this text really mean?!?!

What does this text really mean?!?!

Me: Fuck buddies don’t randomly text each other ‘Have a good weekend!’, right?
Roommate: No, no they don’t.
Me: Huh.

My new FWB sent me a very random text today, saying just that. I am, of course, referring to Mr. “Ari Silver” whom I only briefly touched upon (heh heh) in my previous post. We met not two weeks ago on a dating site I use sporadically (where I was clear about my FWB intentions) – we didn’t exchange much in the realm of dialogue before meeting in person as I knew if we went back and forth, the exchange would lead nowhere. We met for coffee and a vegan ice cream, we liked each other, we kissed, and we agreed to meet again although there were points throughout the date where he seemed genuinely concerned there would not be a next time.

73 Things that Suck About ‘X-Men: Days of Future Past’ and Also Jennifer Lawrence is a Superhero

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Dominic Mah is a writer, director, erratic blogger at dommah.com, and rock musical enthusiast. He recently co-wrote a feature film about superheroes and sidekicks. He is working on a startup comic book. He is often found in karaoke bars being @dommah and @thorhulkcritic.

Because most of the film takes place in 1973. X-SPOILER ALERT.

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1. The original X-Men comic storyline “Days Of Future Past,” first published in 1981, took 2 issues. The film takes 73 hours.
2. Really? Same DNA title sequence as 10 years ago?
3. Still no masks. Could we please get Wolverine or someone to put on the freaking MASK? Iconography, dude!
4. The title cards tell us the name of the city location (“Saigon” “Paris” etc.) in every case except for the one that just says, “China.” Um. All of it?
5. Bryan Singer, whom I’ll refer to from this point on as BS for brevity’s sake, cannot figure out the love story, or the father-son story, or any of the relationship stories that matter to the audience.

SAF Seeking… New F* Buddy, part 1

guest_offendersANNIKA

Annika is a 20-something year old newly single divorcee who recently returned to school to complete a bachelor’s degree in computational linguistics. She spends her time baking, cooking, swimming, hanging at pubs, trying different foods and restaurants, and inappropriately staring at the asses of unassuming men. She currently lives in Los Angeles.

"I'm moving to London." (NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!)

“I’m moving to London.” (NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!)

“Getting together again sounds good, but I am moving to London in two weeks. My company gave me an offer I couldn’t refuse.”

WHAT.

My lover, “Tor,” of the last four months drops this bombshell on me a week ago and I feel a moment of sheer panic at the prospect of having to find a replacement. He also just left my apartment (it is 5:09 AM as I write this) for what seems like the last time ever. I was kind of sad. He was my favorite – and only – booty call. He was younger, filled to the brim with stamina, lived fifteen minutes away, and was always willing to come to my place. By LA standards, that’s a perfect booty call! And whatever it was that we did was also perfect: he’d come over once a week, we’d talk for fifteen minutes, do our thing for a half hour, then he’d leave. It was AWESOME.

SAF Seeking… Sexual Revitalization!

guest_offendersANNIKA

Annika is a 28 year old Cambodian Vietnamese Chinese French American who recently returned to school to finish a bachelor’s degree in computer science and linguistics. Her hobbies and interests include swimming, cooking, baking, writing, reading, math, symbolic logic, learning foreign languages, and drinking espresso – and of course, boys.

Hahaha.

Hahaha.

I am just now breaking through my post-break-up-sex-with-new-partners awkwardness. Yipee! Except now, I want to spend a significant amount of time alone. Boo!

After Andreas and I split, there was a dreadful period of a diminished sex drive, an inability to be present with whoever my partner was, and other sexual unknowns. Sex was never quite the same and I caught myself thinking about him before, during, and after the acts I performed with persons other than him.

Little known fact that may come off as braggy or self-aggrandizing: most of my sex partners have trouble “holding it together” for more than a few minutes with the exception of Andreas, who always had a jack-hammering erection. I’ve grown completely accustomed to men who lose it too quickly which can be both flattering and frustrating at times, but also a common occurrence especially if you’re not familiar with your partner.

SAF Seeking… A Cure for the Committment-Phobe

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Annika is a 28 year old Cambodian Vietnamese Chinese French American who recently returned to school to finish a bachelor’s degree in computer science and linguistics. Her hobbies and interests include swimming, cooking, baking, writing, reading, math, symbolic logic, learning foreign languages, and drinking espresso – and of course, boys.

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Jacob: Can I ask you a question?

Me: Sure.

Jacob: How many other guys are you dating right now?

OH, COME ON. We were having such a good time tonight at the Roxy, watching him get drunk, busting out with some horrible, Midwestern dance moves. Why is he asking this question? The commitment-phobe in me begins to lose its mind. I am not sure this is the sort of thing I want to talk about with someone I’ve been dating for only four weeks on date number four. I pause for about two seconds before giving my honest, truthful answer.

Why Spider-man’s “Sinister 6″ will Revitalize Those Superhero Movies You’re Probably Sick Of

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Dominic Mah is a writer, director, erratic blogger at dommah.com, and rock musical enthusiast. He recently co-wrote a feature film about superheroes and sidekicks. He is working on a startup comic book. He is often found in karaoke bars being @dommah and @thorhulkcritic.

In 2012, here at the YOMYOMF blog, I accurately predicted that Electro would be…African-American. Aaaand that’s about it. Unless they really get Jim Carrey in there somehow as Sandman or Mysterio.

From left: Classic Electro, Some Photobombing Symbiote, Spider-Man, at WonderCon 2014.

From left: Classic Electro, Some Photobombing Symbiote, Spider-Man, at WonderCon 2014.

Were there too many villains in the original Spider-Man 3 (LOL, “the original Spider-Man 3.” Ah, reboots.)? Yeah. Too many villains played by Topher Grace, James Franco, and the other guy in Sideways, that’s the kind of too many villains it had. (Paul Giamatti’s casting as the Rhino in Amazing Spider-Man 2 suggests that Spider-Man’s greatest enemy is actually the film Sideways.)

Spider-Man’s villains kind of suck. The most fun thing that can be said of them is they are usually the result of a misguided experiment in animal husbandry. In the comics debut of the Sinister Six, Kraven (a totally lame villain) is seen researching Spider-Man’s foes – The Octopus, The Scorpion, The Lizard, The Rhino, The Vulture. So it could be argued that on some level the Spider-Man myth is about an insect fighting his way through Wild Kingdom.

SAF Seeking… The Temporal Present

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Annika is a 28 year old Cambodian Vietnamese Chinese French American who recently returned to school to finish a bachelor’s degree in computer science and linguistics. Her hobbies and interests include swimming, cooking, baking, writing, reading, math, symbolic logic, learning foreign languages, and drinking espresso – and of course, boys.

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I’ve been seeing someone for a few weeks. I’ve not been writing about this because I promised myself I would keep whatever “we have” just for me. Also because “a few weeks” is not long enough to constitute “seeing someone” and I actually have not discussed him with many people as a means to un-jinx myself. I actually feel a little creepy even saying that I am “seeing someone” so soon.

His name is “Jacob” and I, surprisingly, really, really like him. Out of the two dozen plus dates I’ve been on from this dating site I’ve been using, he is the only other person I have seen on a consistent basis. He’s also the only person whose company I enjoy for more than a couple hours. With any of the other gentlemen I had gone out with, I found myself pushing them out the door after an hour or so and yet with Jacob, thoughts like, “HOLY BUTTERFLIES” and “Oh my god, I don’t want this night to end” start spearing through my brain. He’s smart, he’s funny (not many guys can make me laugh), he’s adventurous, he’s good looking, and has a presence that makes me feel calm and comfortable. And unlike my behavior with CB, I’ve managed to keep my cool with Jacob (in retrospect, I probably went bonkers over CB because of his aloofness towards me).

5 Moral Quandaries at Wondercon 2014 (a.k.a. Dommah’s Superheroic Ethical Dilemmas)

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Dominic Mah is a writer, director, erratic blogger at dommah.com, and rock musical enthusiast. He recently co-wrote a feature film about superheroes and sidekicks. He is working on a startup comic book. He is often found in karaoke bars being @dommah and @thorhulkcritic.

WonderCon, the smaller sister of ComicCon, is not only about buying action figures and cosplay. It’s also a time to question who you are, right from wrong, power and responsibility. Bear with me, this article is 80% about the first porn thing and only 20% about the other things.

Classic Ms. Marvel, at WonderCon 2014 in Anaheim, California.

Classic Ms. Marvel, at WonderCon 2014 in Anaheim, California.

1. Do you report on the guy who is probably a porn guy scouting for gullible young girls? And why do you know that he is the porn guy?

I’ll answer the second part first. I know he is the porn guy because, for good or ill, I know enough about adult entertainment to recognize that the typical porn guy (from behind his video camera POV, in a high-pitched demonic purr) talks like this:

“Hey what’s going on here? I like your outfit. Mmm. Do a little spin for me? Can you spin around for me? Nice. Great. You look great. Turn around for me.”

SAF Seeking… A backbone

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Annika is a 28 year old Cambodian Vietnamese Chinese French American who recently returned to school to finish a bachelor’s degree in computer science and linguistics. Her hobbies and interests include swimming, cooking, baking, writing, reading, math, symbolic logic, learning foreign languages, and drinking espresso – and of course, boys.

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“Have you ever sent anything back at a restaurant?” queried my therapist.

I’ve been in therapy since the summer of 2013.

I flung myself into the arms of psychodynamic-oriented psychotherapy at the age of 27 in the midst of my divorce. I had never before been in therapy, but when I stumbled upon a never-before-seen box of memories my then-soon-to-be-ex-husband had saved from the four years of our marriage that was almost no more, I found myself sitting on the floor of our closet – as I was packing my belongings – crying hysterically and cradling the white box in my arms for the better part of an hour.

I NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE NOW.

SAF Seeking… An awkward moment

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Annika is a 28 year old Cambodian Vietnamese Chinese French American who recently returned to school to finish a bachelor’s degree in computer science and linguistics. Her hobbies and interests include swimming, cooking, baking, writing, reading, math, symbolic logic, learning foreign languages, and drinking espresso – and of course, boys.

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“Well. This is awkward.”

A phrase I have uttered many a time in my life, but in this particular instance, it was very awkward. There I am sitting completely naked, thumb in my mouth, and listening to two people escalate into a shouting match.

It was a Saturday night. Just a few hours before that, I suggested to my girl friend “Sky,” that we should take advantage of our night and go out for a drink at my favorite pub in Santa Monica. It is my favorite because the people are hot, nice, and the bartenders take care of me with free drinks every time I am there.