Beverly, one of our Yomyomf crew, recently lost someone dear to her. I’ve always enjoyed and admired Bev’s raw, touching and hilarious posts about her adventures and search for love. It was heartbreaking to hear that her fiancé recently passed away.
I can’t do anything to lessen the pain or grief, but I’m wondering what you all find healing or even the least bit helpful in dark times. It can be anything – a painting, song, dance, story, quote, kama sutra position (ok maaaybe not this one), Youtube video made by a magical dragon, etc.
I don’t know how to answer this myself. Part of me wants to suggest funny stuff, but I don’t know if that would be ineffective or tactless. So for now I’ll share a photo that I find comforting.
Another part to this question is: if you’ve gone through a period of mourning, what would you have liked people to say to you? To have done for you? How did you want them to interact? Did you want to be left alone? Did you want to be asked about the person? I’ve always thought that people would want to share stories and talk about their loved ones, but I’ve usually refrained from asking because I didn’t want to make the bereaved feel uncomfortable. Obviously everyone has varying preferences, but maybe sometimes I was mistaken not to ask.
Anyway, I just want to say that I’m thinking of you, Beverly, and we’re all here for you. A big hug.